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If Pride were to appropriately display and honor bodies that look different, it would certainly have an impact.

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The comments on Facebook are more condemning: «Articles like this make me want to puke and only make me further hate ‘gay culture'» and «Disgusting and slap in the face to the regular guys who aren’t muscular. Thank you for telling the rest of us that we are too out of shape to be gay.»

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This is not diversity. This is not a full spectrum of humanity meant to be represented by the rainbow flag, nor is it the inclusive representation symbolized by HRC’s equal sign logo, which has taken the place of rainbow stickers on most cars, at least where I live.

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(No one would pretend at this point that the trans community has been integrated in such a way, and I feel obligated to and interested in speaking out on their behalf because, I don’t know, that whole golden rule thing.)

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